There was quite a bit media attention a few weeks ago, on the subject of wage equality ….. or inequality …..between men and women in the workplace. One radio article I heard, mentioned that the average male employee is more likely to ask for a pay rise than the average female worker. My initial reaction was ” why do average employees think they deserve a pay rise?”. I know …..I was twisting the point!
But why are some of us more comfortable asking for what we feel we deserve, than others?
Is it that some of us have greater self-worth? Or, perhaps our upbringing plays a part in conditioning some of us to feel uncomfortable about asking for things? Possibly, for some, money is not the most important aspect of their job and therefore goes neglected. Whatever the reasons, spending a little type considering such things can spur us in to actions if we feel justified in doing so.
This applies to most things we do. It is pretty easy to stop noticing a lot of the elements in our lives -particularly the finer details.
We may have an overall goal or long term target but realise we are overlooking the finer details. Breaking down that bigger picture in to day to day detail usually results in a greater likelihood of reaching that goal or target. The target of achieving an increase in turnover by X% by the end of the year is much more effective if is broken down in to monthly, daily and in some businesses, hourly targets.
This is important in our personal lives too -it is important to enjoy today, this week, this month and this year. Sometimes we can be so focused on a point in the future that we don’t
notice that we are neglecting the present -or feel that ‘now’ can be sacrificed for some time in the future. It is good to remember that happiness isn’t usually something that just happens to us -it is something we build over time -and that time includes today.
Noticing what is happening today and next week also flags up the things that aren’t working as we want them to, giving the opportunity for change. If something isn’t working and we continue to do it in the same way, it stands to reason that the likelihood is that it still won’t work. One saying I like is “the mind is like a parachute …..most effective when it’s open”. Being open minded and trying different ways of doing the things that aren’t working has got to be a better option -and if that doesn’t work either then try something else. The challenge is to take charge of our lives …………..starting with ‘now’.